How to have zero haters in your life?

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 “Learn to use the criticism as fuel and you will never run out of energy.”

– Orrin Woodward

The simple and inevitable answer to this question is it's impossible. The mere reason is different people have a different set of rules fed in their brain to judge and analyze people. And nobody in this whole world has the power to change the way a person thinks about another person. 

So why waste your precious time thinking about how people judge you to make themselves feel better.

The first thing you have to accept with all your heart is that it’s ok to be hated for the reasons you think are making you a better and progressive person. Because if your success is what makes others uncomfortable then god bless them.

Sometime questions pop up in my mind asking myself what might be the reason that humans are that insecure with another human, why it’s so much hard for people to accept someone else’s success? why it’s necessary for people to feel jealous for the things they don’t have and someone  has?

I believe it’s our human nature to compare ourselves with others to find out who is superior. And this is not just our present thing; it has been present within us from the beginning of our entire human civilisation where the first game which was played to prove superiority was “survival of the fittest”. 

Leaders were decided based on the strength and excellence he possesses, so it’s obvious to have runner ups in the competition because there can be only one winner who will become the absolute best. And the rest will always find ways to blame the man with success for their failures thinking he is the one who snatched their opportunities leaving them with nothing.

So this is a very natural tendency of a human being to experience jealousy and insecurity within their life span as it is very deeply rooted in our brain kinetics which makes us believe that nobody can be better than us.

Everyone of us at some point of our lives have definitely experienced this feeling of people hating us for doing something extraordinary whether it’s topping the class, a promotion, making money, buying your dream car or anything which makes us different from the average.

So what is the solution for this, so we don’t have to face any more unnecessary hatred? What should be done so that nobody hates us anymore for being good? What should be done so that everyone loves us for the person we are? How to be loved like never before? And thousands of other questions we ask ourselves every day because it really hurts to be treated in such a way just for doing the best we can.

So here are some basic things which every human being should follow in order to make themselves more loving, desirable and less vulnerable to people’s wrath.

1.    Be respectful to everyone – In order to earn respect you have to give it first, that’s the most basic thing which has been taught to us since our childhood. But how much we follow it has always been the question mark in our lives. Because what People generally do is create categories based on the money, fame or power someone endures in the society and then decide their level of respect for them based on these factors. So what’s the point of respecting someone when you have to use a scale to define how much respect someone deserves and how much he/she should be given? It is basically a kind of invisible humiliation that people have to go through because of the categories we create for every individual human being. So next time you want to respect someone do it without caring about their status in society. Do it because they are human beings, do it not because everyone deserves it but because you deserve it, do it because the most expensive thing you can offer someone is ‘RESPECT’ that’s why it is priceless.

2.  Be the ultimate source of love- In a world full of people hating each other for nothing. Be someone who can love anyone with all your heart without caring about their status in society. Be that source of love that the world has never seen before loving and taking care of everyone around you without any judgement.

3.  Stop expecting too much – when you ask yourself what’s that one thing which hurts the most. The answer will always be the people not doing enough for you or not doing what you have expected from them. Remove expectation from your life and you will notice how beautiful the world is without this unnecessary baggage. This tends to be the only reason for all our pain and suffering. We expect too much.

4.  Be genuine as much as possible – the world has evolved to a whole new level where people no longer believe in being an original and relevant asset. Now people prefer to wear a mask in order to fake themselves in front of others. So that they can lie to the world about who they actually are, pretending to be someone else, who they can never be, is in the new trends. So in a world full of fake faces be someone with the most genuine and loving characteristics which the world has never seen. I can assure you that you will definitely see the difference around yourself because people can’t hate someone with that much love and respect for others.

5.  Be a good listener – Today we are so busy with ourselves that we merely have time to listen to somebody else, including the people closest to us, even for a second. Because we are living in a world where our brain has addicted in switching between things every nanosecond. so it’s very hard for us to concentrate at one thing for a little longer where we are not interested and surely listening to others has never been anyone’s interest. So in a situation like this where people are busy telling their own stories, be someone who focuses more on listening than talking. People have always loved a great audience because it makes them feel really special about themselves. As someone for the first time in their entire lives has shown interest in their unheard stories. Believe me, if you can be a good listener nobody can hate you for sure and you might have also experienced this as well.

 

So stop feeling guilty for what people think about you. You can’t mould a person’s thought process instead focus on your overall growth by following the above set of highly effective ways which will surely make you more lovable and bring you more respect from people around you.